I’ve met so many amazing women recently, who’ve inspired me to write this post for you today, so I hope you enjoy. The new #ncbloggerbabesunite community has been so inspiring thus far and I cannot wait for you to meet the amazing women I’ve chosen to surround myself with! We all know that the topic of comparison comes up all the time in the fashion and beauty blogging communities. The reminder to stay true to who we are, is always around us. Even though this is the case, we sometimes forget just how unique and amazing we truly are. Our positive attitudes wither away; we slowly but surely stop reciting our affirmations, life gets heavy, we get bored…things happen! We all have our moments and dry spells! But, if there’s one thing I do know, it’s that if you believe you have a purpose in this life…then you need to work with what you got and be proud of it! Everyone starts somewhere and that somewhere is your somewhere.
I grew up in a small beach community on the coast of North Carolina. The biggest cities closest to me were each an hour away. When I first started this blogging journey, I believed that I had to take pictures with old buildings in the backgrounds like all the other fashion bloggers, any flower wall I could find (still haven’t found one!), maybe something historical? But! That would entail me traveling an hour away to take an hours worth of photos with a child, mind you! I just dreamed of living some place else, having access to something my taste…without a road full of pine trees and a beach so full of people that you didn’t even want to go (our population almost triples in the summer!). I tried so hard to fight against my surroundings for so long, when what I should have done was try to find a way to feature them.
Have you ever felt this way? The need to have, or do, or try and feature something that really isn’t realistic for you? We’ve all been there! I think after a certain point it’s a good thing to take a step back and re-evaluate your situation. What can I achieve in one week? Where are the most convenient locations for me to shoot? What items do I already own that I can re-work into a new outfit and photograph? Once we take a step back and realize that we are who we are and have what we have and are not living in limbo wishing we had someone else’s things, or life…things just get a bit easier…and happier!
Once you’ve taken a step back and re-evaluated your personal situation, it might be a good idea to sit down and brainstorm ways to feature the things you don’t like. For instance, I have two busy children, a very busy husband and no time or patience to go to a certain location to shoot. Even though we’ve moved to Raleigh, we’re still back at the beach all summer, leaving me with that good ole’ road full of pine trees. That’s what I have to work with this summer, so I decided to feature it! With lots of research on how to create my own preset, I was able to come up with one that counteracted all the gross green in the background of my photos. Below is an example.
There is SUCH huge difference in the two pictures, but the background is obviously the same! Once an eye sore, is now something to be proud of. Which leads me to this conclusion: You will never move forward in anything wishing you were, or had, or did something else. Be who you are and realistic with what you have and make it awesome! I’ve worked very hard on finding happiness and peace when it comes to my content creating capabilities. My life doesn’t reflect someone who is single with no children and nothing but time on their hands, I’m currently in the sticks with A LOT of greenery and I’m 32…still alive and kickin’ in the fashion blogging community…what WHAT!?
With all of that being said, make it a point to re-evaluate who you truly are, your voice and gifts. Next find ways to feature those things the best of your ability, without looking at what other fellow creators are doing, put your blinders on and you do you! Once you do those two things, happiness will follow with all your hard work. I hope this post inspires you to go out there and do the dang thing…but your way!
Is there an area in your business that you can’t change, like my location dilemma? If so, would you ever consider brainstorming ways to feature it? What obstacles lay ahead for you, if you do? What do you think you have to loose or gain by trying? Please let me know in the comment section below.
XO – Savvy
Editor & Chief
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